- Despite finding dating apps “intimidating,” she is “terrified” and “excited” about the prospects and is “trying to stay open.”
Huma Abedin, longtime Hillary Clinton aide and estranged wife of former Rep. Anthony Weiner (D-N.Y.) is gradually moving on. Speaking on the sidelines of the recently concluded Jaipur Literary Festival in Soneva Fushi in the Maldives, Abedin, daughter of Indian and Pakistani scholars, told The Guardian that she finds dating apps intimidating. “I’m trying to stay open, but dating is terrifying, which also makes it exciting,” she said. “ I believe in love – I had it, I know what it felt like, I’d love to have that feeling again.”
Abedin was at the May 13-22 festival to talk about her memoir “Both/And: A Life in Many Worlds,” where she shares stories of her family, legacy, identity, faith, marriage, and motherhood. She also reveals the repercussions her ex-husband’s sexting scandal had both on her personal and political life.
Noting that friendship is her “therapy,” Abedin told the British paper that as she lived in a world where she felt whatever I said would end up in the newspapers, she was “very careful” about what she shared, even with close friends. I’ve let go of those hang-ups now. I struggle with anxiety, but therapy helped me deal with the shock and trauma of what happened in my personal life
Almost five years after Weiner’s sexting scandal broke out, the couple is not yet divorced. This February, Weiner told the New York Post that their divorce is “all but finalized, and is on paper. “Now we just have to wait for the court system to catch up with us.”
Abedin first filed for divorce in 2017, though later withdrew the case so their lawyers could negotiate out of the public eye, as the couple continued to live in the same East Village building. The COVID-19 pandemic further delayed the legal separation.
Prior to the launch of her book, she told the Associated Press that writing the book gave her the opportunity to reflect on her own life — “from the nurturing family I was privileged to be born into, to working for one of the most compelling leaders of our time. This journey has led me through exhilarating milestones and devastating setbacks. I have walked both with great pride and in overwhelming shame. It is a life I am — more than anything — enormously grateful for and a story I look forward to sharing.”
Despite where her marriage ended and the public spectacle it became, Abedin told The Guardian that it made her feel “powerful and free.” The early years of marriage were her happiest, she added. “I had a hard but fulfilling job that felt like I was contributing to history. I had a partner for the first time, somebody I loved and looked forward to going home to every night. Everything felt possible. That’s why it was so hard to lose it all overnight.”
Revealing that Weiner was the first man she got intimate with, she opened up about sex to The Guardian. “God created sex. It’s that sense of fulfillment and connection, of what you’re giving to yourself and to your partner.” she said. However, she “didn’t explore it enough,” she confessed. “I was raised in a world where sex was a taboo subject and it made it very mysterious. It was forbidden in our culture, but my parents said it was my decision. I kept myself closed.”
Abedin also expressed regret for not having more fun. She recalled the number of nights that ended with work, when she’d collapse into bed, then go back to the office to send more emails. “A good life is a balanced life. I wish I’d allowed myself to experiment.”