I was visiting India in February, when the virus was really taking a toll in China. At the time, there were barely a handful of cases confirmed in the U.S. However, by the time I returned from my trip, it was a completely different story. By mid-March, California was on lockdown and I knew our wedding would be postponed, despite how hopeful I wanted to be.
One of the main reasons my fiancé Chris and I decided to postpone our July wedding to a later date is the wellbeing of our families and friends. My sister is an essential worker. Knowing that she has to go in everyday without hazard pay, without proper PPE’s. I couldn’t put her in a position where she was at an added risk.
Nothing worried us more than to have our wedding in a time of uncertainty, and increase anyone’s vulnerability or exposure.
For the last few weeks, it’s been hard to focus or engage in any wedding talk. Chris and I are trying to make sense of the “new normal” — working from home, staying indoors for days, virtual contact with our friends and family, and SO much cooking!
We are just trying to focus on getting by and reminding ourselves that when this all blows over, we’ll have a beautiful wedding to share with a special group of people – no matter when it happens.
Arun, our wedding planner (Detailed Affairs Team) has been so helpful throughout this process. There are a few vendors who we developed a friendship with throughout planning but he has managed almost all of the communication.
Think of the weeks and months it takes to find vendors that are available per your vision, your budget, your dates…now think of doing this legwork in only days, while vendors are juggling so many rescheduling requests.
It seems like an oversimplification of what’s happening but, practice gratitude. Be grateful for the opportunity and privilege to have a wedding , to have loved ones you can share it with. Be grateful for good health and access to medical care. Practice kindness towards yourself and to others. We are all going through this together!
Chetana Guliani, 30, works in the beauty industry and her fiancé Christopher Tutino, 31, is a biotechnology professional. The couple is originally from New Jersey and now lives and works in San Francisco, California. They met on Tinder in 2015.