1.0American Kahanihttps://americankahani.comShabnam Samuelhttps://americankahani.com/author/shabnamsamuel/To Grieve or Not to Grieve: A Daughter Ends Her Silence on a Mother Who Never Was - American Kahanirich600338<blockquote class="wp-embedded-content" data-secret="JTFAw0RyMe"><a href="https://americankahani.com/perspectives/to-grieve-or-not-to-grieve-a-daughter-ends-her-silence-on-a-mother-who-never-was/">To Grieve or Not to Grieve: A Daughter Ends Her Silence on a Mother Who Never Was</a></blockquote><iframe sandbox="allow-scripts" security="restricted" src="https://americankahani.com/perspectives/to-grieve-or-not-to-grieve-a-daughter-ends-her-silence-on-a-mother-who-never-was/embed/#?secret=JTFAw0RyMe" width="600" height="338" title="“To Grieve or Not to Grieve: A Daughter Ends Her Silence on a Mother Who Never Was” — American Kahani" data-secret="JTFAw0RyMe" frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" class="wp-embedded-content"></iframe><script type="text/javascript">
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https://americankahani.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/IMG_6591-1.jpg19461317My mother who was 84 passed away a month ago. The call came while I was at work. She in India and me in America. The distance, symbolic of the divide between us, was there all our lives. It was expected, given her health, but still… How do children of divorced parents grieve? How do…